Quoting Sarah1976:

Haha I just have to take a step back here folks and laugh. I mean first off I wrote this years ago so obviously it isn't a current issue in my life now but secondly what to say... I just don't know. But you all should date each other or something. Two people so hell bent on making me see the error of my ways when they don't even know me? Ya sure you don't go to the same church? Oh well forgive me I'm sure that comes off much more harsh than I actually feel but well you took me for a loop. You know what though I'm just going to go with a big bravo though for posting something. Not many folks do so hey I might not agree with ya but it doesn't mean you thoughts aren't welcomed.
That said and done ummm do you ever stop and wonder about the married women who would be meeting people (men) on these sites??? Probably something missing in their marriage already. Sure was in mine. Of course I would hate to over generalize, and I'm sure there are exceptions, but I don't think emails or heck even affairs are really the problems in most marriages but rather the symptoms of the actual problem. What do you think?
And as for your other comment... Well that just made me sound like a woman who preys on men who are emotionally confused due to their current deployment in a war zone strait up. Come on, seriously? Did you even look at my profile first? I'm not some 19 year old chit playing games. Most of the "friends" I made on this site were female, and civilian. So please try to be a tad more respectful of people you feel the need to address and take a moment will ya?

Haha I just have to take a step back here folks and laugh. I mean first off I wrote this years ago so obviously it isn't a current issue in my life now but secondly what to say... I just don't know. But you all should date each other or something. Two people so hell bent on making me see the error of my ways when they don't even know me? Ya sure you don't go to the same church? Oh well forgive me I'm sure that comes off much more harsh than I actually feel but well you took me for a loop. You know what though I'm just going to go with a big bravo though for posting something. Not many folks do so hey I might not agree with ya but it doesn't mean you thoughts aren't welcomed.
That said and done ummm do you ever stop and wonder about the married women who would be meeting people (men) on these sites??? Probably something missing in their marriage already. Sure was in mine. Of course I would hate to over generalize, and I'm sure there are exceptions, but I don't think emails or heck even affairs are really the problems in most marriages but rather the symptoms of the actual problem. What do you think?
And as for your other comment... Well that just made me sound like a woman who preys on men who are emotionally confused due to their current deployment in a war zone strait up. Come on, seriously? Did you even look at my profile first? I'm not some 19 year old chit playing games. Most of the "friends" I made on this site were female, and civilian. So please try to be a tad more respectful of people you feel the need to address and take a moment will ya?

Quoting Sarah1976:

hey bulldog you are allowed to have your opinions, strong or otherwise. And while part of me believes strongly that if you have a good solid relationship there would never be anything like "harmless" flirting, the other part of me wonders at the likeliness of people actually living 20, 30, 50, 60 or more years together without something similar never having happened. maybe it wasn't the internet, maybe it was a woman who worked in your office. maybe it wasn't an actual strait forward exchange of sexually explicit words but it was looks and possibly coffee, or just that rush you would get seeing her day after day. after a while it may have passed. maybe there would have been a crisis at home to draw away your attention, maybe she left the company, who knows, but it passed. this is just some random scenario I'm making up, something that could happen to anyone. something that probably does happen to people. we meet people all the time thatwe are drawn to, but we don't act on it because we are in a committed relationship--well we tell ourselves we aren't action on it. aren't you acting on it just a little when you smiled for a few extra seconds at her or held her hand just a tad too long. and can you tell me that there isn't the slightest chance this imaginary man didn't think of her while other more intimate things where going on...that it might have turned him on and made him hunger for his marital bed in a new voracious way?
There are sooo many people in our lives we will come into contact with that will touch our hearts and our minds and even our imaginations in ways we could never foresee. I want to believe in forever for all time an eternity to tell you the truth bulldog, but I know personally I will also be susceptible to outside influences that heighten my awareness of my sexuality and make my heart beat a little quicker and my lips curve into a smile a little easier. I think it is a mater of finding a working balance and being honest with yourself and with your partner.
Also to me... and you may think this is weird, but a relationship like that, a cyber fantasy one, is like female porn. for some reason I'm suppose to accept that it is okay for guys to look at porn yet when I want what does it for me it is off limits? Sorry but a lot of chicks just aren't going to get that sort of stimulation looking at a picture. it is like emotional porn, haha! sad but true. it is what we need, we need emotional porn. man some woman is going to come on here and slap me silly for saying that but I think it just might be true.
oh well just some thoughts.
and oh just so you know yeah I did pack it all up and leave. no problems there. finally got the guts to act on the marital problems that were there way before any of this went down. I still think the cyber talk kept me there longer than I would have stayed but in the end it wasn't what I needed, how could it be? Is the grass greener? nope, same shade, just different place and hopefully both me and my husband can find happiness, because neither of us were, but neither of us were willing to do anything to change that.

hey bulldog you are allowed to have your opinions, strong or otherwise. And while part of me believes strongly that if you have a good solid relationship there would never be anything like "harmless" flirting, the other part of me wonders at the likeliness of people actually living 20, 30, 50, 60 or more years together without something similar never having happened. maybe it wasn't the internet, maybe it was a woman who worked in your office. maybe it wasn't an actual strait forward exchange of sexually explicit words but it was looks and possibly coffee, or just that rush you would get seeing her day after day. after a while it may have passed. maybe there would have been a crisis at home to draw away your attention, maybe she left the company, who knows, but it passed. this is just some random scenario I'm making up, something that could happen to anyone. something that probably does happen to people. we meet people all the time thatwe are drawn to, but we don't act on it because we are in a committed relationship--well we tell ourselves we aren't action on it. aren't you acting on it just a little when you smiled for a few extra seconds at her or held her hand just a tad too long. and can you tell me that there isn't the slightest chance this imaginary man didn't think of her while other more intimate things where going on...that it might have turned him on and made him hunger for his marital bed in a new voracious way?
There are sooo many people in our lives we will come into contact with that will touch our hearts and our minds and even our imaginations in ways we could never foresee. I want to believe in forever for all time an eternity to tell you the truth bulldog, but I know personally I will also be susceptible to outside influences that heighten my awareness of my sexuality and make my heart beat a little quicker and my lips curve into a smile a little easier. I think it is a mater of finding a working balance and being honest with yourself and with your partner.
Also to me... and you may think this is weird, but a relationship like that, a cyber fantasy one, is like female porn. for some reason I'm suppose to accept that it is okay for guys to look at porn yet when I want what does it for me it is off limits? Sorry but a lot of chicks just aren't going to get that sort of stimulation looking at a picture. it is like emotional porn, haha! sad but true. it is what we need, we need emotional porn. man some woman is going to come on here and slap me silly for saying that but I think it just might be true.
oh well just some thoughts.
and oh just so you know yeah I did pack it all up and leave. no problems there. finally got the guts to act on the marital problems that were there way before any of this went down. I still think the cyber talk kept me there longer than I would have stayed but in the end it wasn't what I needed, how could it be? Is the grass greener? nope, same shade, just different place and hopefully both me and my husband can find happiness, because neither of us were, but neither of us were willing to do anything to change that.

Quoting Sarah1976:

Well hey I'm glad for feed back of any kind :)

Well hey I'm glad for feed back of any kind :)