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Posted on Sun, Dec 11, 2005 16:39

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Posted on Tue, Jul 25, 2006 09:21

btw everyone, i'm not active on this site, and i have recieved some winks from quite a few of you. interested in talking, post something here and we can chat, or send me an email so i can respond to it. hope you all are having a wonderful day. laters.....


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Posted on Tue, Jul 25, 2006 09:19

seriously now!!!!! why would someone get close to someone, involve their children in everything, just to tell you that they don't want anything serious? i don't get it!!!


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Posted on Fri, Jul 14, 2006 08:10

What the heck is wrong with women? you know, not to toot my own horn, but i know that i am a great catch. toot toot! ha. anyway, i started pulling away from a relationship with someone i met, because they told me not to get close. what the heck, as soon as i start doing my own thing again, she wants to call all the time. so, i get the signal crossed, start getting close again, then you know it, she pulls away again. what the heck? is there anyone out there that is serious?


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Posted on Fri, Jun 30, 2006 19:54

The only person that really knows what ours lives will be is the man upstairs but i believe from a hell of experience is that in this life he gives us no more then we can handle. I know it sucks when the love of your life leaves and splits a family but no matter how we look at it we are still family in a way. So, as the rain falls down our pain washes away a little each time, as the wind blows our anger blows away some, as the weather changes from one season to the next so does our life and a new season brings us closer to healing and when the sun shines bright over our heads we will remember the good times we shared and in time we can smile about the harsh lessons we have over came in our life. I understand stand what you've gone through in more ways then one but as everyone has said time does really heal pain. With that said i hope a smile comes to your face the day your special one comes into your life and knowing that we are all looking for someone to complete us. Just know there are some out here that care for you and your pain. Last note on this is that what doesn't kill us only makes us stronger...


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Posted on Thu, Jun 22, 2006 04:57

It takes time,but it will happen.Not everybody is bad,the hard part is finding that right one.


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Posted on Wed, Jun 21, 2006 17:00

moving on, emmmmmmmm......... got myself into a new relatinship to find out tha she was playing games. emmmmm.....hurt again, oh well. my heart was better for a little while, but i believe i was actually just filling a void of the previous loss. anyway, things are getting better a i find myself knowing that i am a great catch for someone out there! our paths just haven't crossed yet, or have they. i guess you don't really know until it happens. staying upbeat gets a little easier with time, as people have told me, and i look forward to the day that someone special is in my life again. co-dependant???? maybe, or maybe i just don't know anything else. only time will tell. thanks for all the comments. living life to its fullest right now! meet someone, and what ever happens, happens. if there is nothing, that is fine too. maybe i;m not ready to move on yet, but i sure as heck do enjoy the time i spend with other people and making new friends. head up and ready to play again. bring it on!!!!!!!!!


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Posted on Sat, Jun 17, 2006 20:00

Hey, I am sorry to hear about ur breakup. I was married for 17 years to my ex-husband. We had four beautiful children. He just up and one day said he was through..had him a girlfriend on the side. But he said he felt trapped and felt like he hasn't lived his life. He was not happy. Sometimes I guess u justs don't know. I have often wondered, as u did, how someone could just quit loving someone. I don't think they do, I honestly think they feel that they have missed out on something and just need to find themselves. But in the meantime, we are left there wandering what did I do or not do? The most important thing to do is remember all the good times you had and try not to have bitter feelings. Heeling will come in time. No, you will always have scars. You just have to look forward and one day someone will come along and heal that broken heart. I wish you luck and I hope you find that peace. Be strong.


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Posted on Sat, Jun 17, 2006 11:00

I can identify with you completely. I was in a relationship for 18 years, married 16. I thought we had it all, everything, right down to the day I found out he was seeing another woman. I never had any signs. That was 7 years ago. It took me a long time to get past it. I can finally laugh again, smile and have moved on. I have to say it took me a long time to get to that point. I see this was posted a while back and I hope it's getting better for you. No one can make you feel better, though people will try, you just have to know it does get better, eventually.


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Posted on Wed, Jun 14, 2006 15:15

concierge_girly I hear everything you are saying and i have done all of that. in the beginning i thought it was all my fault. i know now that just isn't true. tried tha councelling, she didn't want it, tried the reconcil, she didn't want it, asked what the reason was..... the only thing she said was, there just isn't any one reason. emmmmmmm..... what the #$@% does that mean. cop out.....i think so. yes i'm bitter, and i will be for a long time to come. she threw any our dreams and the dreams we had for our children. financially and emotionally. what the $%#%^!!!!! oopppppssss......ok off my soap box, ha. anyway, i think you are right, she just wants to get out and, well you know. hey, let me tell ya, i have too. the past year has been a rolloercoaster ride for me. i hurt, a lot, but i try my best to stay upbeat and i get out as much as possible now. the single life is killing me so to speak, but what a great time i'm having at it. i must admit that certain activities, if you know what i mean, ha, are a lot better!!! lol. whoa, ok, i'll stop there. btw, yes she gained a lot of weight, but i never minded, she thought i did, but i really didn't. it wasn't her body i was in love with. she did at one point lose a lot of weight, but she put it right back on, then after we split, she put on even more. i don't know, what does that mean? and the answer to your other question, yes she just up and quit, lets see how this one grabs you, she told me that we were all each other knew. getting out to sow her oats, i think that is an understatement! ha. anyway, let me know what you think now and stay in touch. texan ey? like like texans. especially redheads, ha. well i better stop now. thanks for the comment. take care.


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Posted on Fri, May 19, 2006 03:51

sort xsweet no how u feal just split with my hubby feal like


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Posted on Thu, May 18, 2006 20:41

I'm sorry you have to deal with something like that and I wish I could say the hurt will go away. It will easy in time and you will start to feel better after a while just know your not alone. I know how it feels and I still find it hard to believe in love for me any way.Some times it's good to get things off your chest.I have a friend I KNOW I can go to and rant as long as I need to that makes me feel so much better after words.


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Posted on Tue, Jan 31, 2006 09:03

I am sorry to hear that thing's go wrong in life that we have no explantion for and beat are heads against a brick wall trying to figure out the inpossable I to had a love for ten years and he walked away with no feeling's or it just seemed like he did I to would like the to answer that qestion how can love run so deep make the other just walk away .It has been 9 years since that day that we have been devorced not my choice but I can tell you one thing they regret it after it is all said and done when it is to late and the damage has already been done , I never stoped loving him he never allowed me to he did not want me but it bothered him to see me with anyone else and would interfer with it and when I was alone it seemed to make him happy . If you ever do anything, is to live everyday as it comes and be happy for the time you did share they say time heals all wounds I am a frim believer of that time does heal all so just hang in there when thing's look bad give the kids a big hug and thank her for the one thing she gave you that you can charish it is there smiling eyes you see that can make a grown man cry ,I know it easier said then done but don't make the mistake I did for years I let him come and go and me I always wear heart on my sleeve even if I knew it wasn't going anywhere it stung like a knife everytime he came back but no more I live for me and my children I guess you can say I am a dreamer I believe there is someone for everybody and we just havn't found them yet if you belive in god then you know that he puts us threw things to make us stronger even when it hurts many blessing's and hope things are better for you JOann


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Posted on Sun, Dec 18, 2005 19:18

i'm sorry to hear of your loss. i'm in your shoes right now. it does get better with time. it's just that the time goes at it's own pace. you will never drop the love you feel it will always be with you in some way or another. this will not break you, it will only make you stronger. it will make you cherish things you never knew you had. when things seem to be getting harder that just means it will be easier when you turn the corner. just remember that there is good in you and that it happened for a reason. you have friends and now is the time to seek their support. take deep breaths and laugh at the first funny thing that pops into your mind. just remember no matter where you are there is someone else out there going through the same thing as you or worse. there is always someone that has it worse than you in some way or another. just thank god that you have your health, you mind, your children, your family. be thankful for those that are still there for you and for those that will be. grieve for those that have turned on you and for the feelings they will feel or are feeling when they realize they have lost you. No matter how bad things seem today they will always be better tommorow. god bless, good luck, and keep venting.....it helps. be safe and happy holidays


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