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Bizarre though not uncommon apparently. I was listening to the radio in my car today and the topic was "open relationships" or relationships were there exists an understanding that either partner is allowed to go outside the relationship as long as the other partner is made fully aware. The host of the show presented this question....How far are you willing to go to preserve your relationship? Would you be willing to adopt this type of "understanding" with your partner in order to hold on to them? My answer? Hmmmm, can you say HELL NAH? Maybe I'm old fashioned but why mess with an institution that is time tested and couple approved? If it was good enough for my grandparents and parents then its damn sure good enough for me. FIDELITY! I want the entire package and if my partner is not ready for that commitment then he needs to follow the advice of the illustruous Ms. Badu and "call Tyrone, tell him I said come on help you get yo s---" (lol) In other words a man like that must be released to new opportunities. I'm sure that there are some that would disagree with me so all are welcome to comment.
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hmm. not that i would ever think about pushing my own beliefs on anyone (what you believe is up to you alone) but for me, this is all about God. I mean, God created sex, and He designed for us to desire it. He created it so that we could have something unique and develop TRUE intimacy with another person. God wants our sex lives to be ridiculously amazing!!! (He commands it.) But, He also designed it with caution. He designed it for man and woman, husband and wife...that's it. Because God understands the emotional attachment and ALL the baggage that goes along with being sexually active with someone, He knew it would be difficult for us to be united with more than one person. yet we ignore our Creator and do things our way. (unfortunately, i too am completely guilty of destroying God's design for sex.) Anyway, for any couple to be a "couple" they should be devoted to only one another. And sex should be something they enjoy after marriage. Your body is not your own, it also belongs to your spouse, where ever he or she may be. It really all comes down to your beliefs on the matter...do what you want, but it is my experience that doing things Gods way works pretty well. =) just a thought.
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Good point layloni about health risks. It is just the day and age we live in. my mom and I were talking about safe sex the other day and I told her that for me when I was out there it was totally second nature to have condoms all around. no discomfort over who is going to have and if any one is going to because pretty much every one male and female carries them now adays--atleast in my experinces. and pretty much anyone who is worth two cents totally wont push to have sex without a condom. Have we entered a new safe sex phase in history. Is sex in one way more dangerous now aday yet in another way more safe?? I believe more people are tested for sexually transmitted diseases inculding AIDS and that more people use condoms, but at the same time there are just simply more people in the world and more deadly diseases... hhhhmmmmmm.... Kind of getting off the subject here, but I'm interested to know others experinces and thoughts especially about the condoms
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Just because something is trendy doesn't mean it's a good idea. Perfect example, spandex. (lol) When we get into something as sacred and intimate as a love affair between two people then we need to reevaluate what constitutes a commitment and by extention a relationship. And even if you bypass the emotional factor, what about the health risks? Its just a little too risque for my taste.
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I have never done it & it will never happen nor will it ever work.I cant & wont hang on to any man.If he wants to be with me he will.I do know this couple who swing & they are married but I dont see them as married because thats not a marraige ,thats the single life with roomate/benefits ,thats not a relationship....but if thats what they want & they cant satisfy each other on thier own it's there thing ,thank God it isnt mine you know?It's thier choice & it doesnt bother me,that doesnt mean I'll do it though...I dont want to sound like a party pooper....I'm not boring at all trust me on that one !!! But there is a saying & it goes like this .....play with fire & your gonna get burned.I cant help but think this is what they were referring too?Good blog subject I notice everyones afraid to go there ...thats kinda funny.Like my profile says I'm easy to talk to & I'll talk about any subject.Take care & happy Holidays....

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Some would argue that it is unnatural to spend the rest of your life with just one person. I mean I'm all for the idea... but hey, I get the other sides' point...I just don't think I could handle knowing my man was diddling around with someone else even if I was too--I know totally double standards, but don't we all have them?? and actually if we were really to look long and hard at that I would probably have a hard time steping out on my man too, I do have the ability to feel guilt and it is working perfectly fine:)