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Lin27...
Posted on May 10, 2006 at 10:04 AM Total posts: 5

I put up a profile, added that I have kids. They are twins. I am an all around great person. No one responds!

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AmericanHone...
Posted on Apr 24, 2012 at 01:22 PM Total posts: 1

Hello Curtisy69 Wow.. Nicely said you have just gave me even more will power not to give up so easy I myself is a single mother of a 5yr old boy. Thank you for letting SINGLE MOTHERS like me know there's still GOOD MEN OUT THERE... xoxo's God Bless..

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sweetcheeks20...
Posted on Aug 21, 2006 at 11:50 AM Total posts: 1

hi, im from the UK and i just gotta say, DIGGY D and CURTISY69 do you guys wanna come over to the UK to teach the guys hear on how to treat a woman.lol. I wish you guys all the best in your search for Miss Right x

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yoeytex...
Posted on Jul 28, 2006 at 08:10 PM Total posts: 1

So me, being the other end of the spectrum - 42 single no kids - can be another choice. I like kids, just didn't happen for me. And now - too old. It's may or may not be the kids/no kids issue. Be honest and forthright.

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Unavailable
Posted on Jul 23, 2006 at 06:44 AM Total posts: 10

If no one responded it's probably because you don't have a photo up. Kids won't make or break someone who's interested in you. But you could have this wittiest profile EVER and no picture and people would pass you by.

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Tyson...
Posted on Jul 19, 2006 at 01:59 AM Total posts: 2

A man who is really interested in you doesn't care whether or not your have children and if you do have kids you come as a package deal. However ladies its the same for us guys who have children also. I was in a 4 year relationship with a woman with two children and gave myself to her a her kids wholehearted and ended up getting dumped because I was quote "An over caring father" a title which I wear gladly. So there are those of us who want and are willing to share our lives and love with women with children both it goes both ways

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combatkill...
Posted on Jul 18, 2006 at 08:10 AM Total posts: 1

no i dont agree i want to have kids i think it makes a man feel eight feet taller when they have a child

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Tyson...
Posted on Jul 18, 2006 at 06:31 AM Total posts: 2

A real man knows that any woman with children co mes as a package deal if he wants to be with that woman he has to acceptall of her not just the parts he likes that goes for the ladies too! I actually got dumped because I take care of my children (hers too for that matter)! I was called an overcaring father and that my kids were part of my old relationship. There are some of us who would like to have a loving, caring, stable relationship

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BetsyRo...
Posted on Jul 15, 2006 at 01:16 PM Total posts: 32

I said it before and I'll say it again, "Single Moms ROCK!!!" :-)

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tony1f...
Posted on Jul 13, 2006 at 05:01 PM Total posts: 5

I have a 14 year old daughter and often wonder if I will ever remarry before I am 50. I would like to have other children. Everytime I meet someone the minute you say that you have a child they come up with some excuse never to call again. I know some women play games but not all of use do.

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RandomWom...
Posted on Jul 11, 2006 at 07:46 PM Total posts: 1

People have so many reasons for not wanting to get involved with a guy/girl with kids even if they seem like a great, fun person. Before I got married and had my baby I didn't want to date guys with kids because I never wanted to be in one of those situations where my lack of knowledge/interest in kids would cause a serious problem. Also I was, and still am, afraid of becoming attached to a child then never seeing them again when we stop dating :(

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striperbish...
Posted on Jul 11, 2006 at 07:22 PM Total posts: 2

I would like to respond to curious2009 comments. I agree with her. sometimes people have to just to settle down. and Curious2009, for god sakes, I would love to have your kids. 1-2-5-12 you name it!

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Unavailable
Posted on Jul 10, 2006 at 11:21 AM Total posts: 133

Some people (because this applies to women as well) are unwilling to get involved with someone that has children because they are still in their "selfish" stage. They don't want to share the prospective mate with someone else. Children are a big responsibility and one that not many people are willing or able to handle. Children demand time and attention and rightfully so. I have 2 toddlers (its on my profile) and I get quite a few responses. It helps to weed out the flakes. (LOL) If a man is mature and modest about his own self importance then he will welcome the opportunity to share his life with a great woman even if she has children. Chin up and take the initiative to wink at someone. There's nothing wrong with that. If they respond, great. If not, NEXT! lol

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Aussie_Chic_...
Posted on Jun 13, 2006 at 10:24 PM Total posts: 227

Ok, I know I'm going to get trashed out about this but I think the point needs to be made... It is ok for someone to not want to take on children in a relationship. I am about the worlds biggest mother hen and have been looking after other peoples children for 12 years. To someone like me it is natural. But there are other issues at play here. Like: Will that person want more children Will there be an excessive age difference between the children (some people don't want that) The simple fact is raising other peoples children is not for everybody. This is no ones fault, it's part of who we are. If people don't show an interest because you have kids, try being thankful for their honesty. Better to be upfront than strung along

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Posted on Jun 12, 2006 at 12:34 PM Total posts: 10

I was married to a woman with a daughter. Said daughter was 6 months old when I met the ex. Said daughter is now 9 years old and will be 10 in October. She has called me "daddy" since she could talk and always will. When someone asks me, "do I have children", I will instantly say I have a son (biological) because that's easy to explain. I will also say I have a step-daughter. The only reason I use the word "step" is because I don't want anyone to think I have more than one biological child. Sounds crazy, but it's a me thing. But understand that I have two children! She has never been treated as anything other than my child! Kids do not scare men away. It's the mentally of the man in question that makes him go away. A mature man who knows what he wants will understand that if he is truly interested in a woman and she has kids then that is what we call a "package deal". He's either willing to handle the responsibility or not. I myself would not set a boundary by only talking to women without children (there aren't that many out there anyway, jus' kiddin'). I'd sever limit myself if I did that. That's my take. Oh yeah, put some pics up, I agree with CG and AC on that.

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Aussie_Chic_...
Posted on Jun 11, 2006 at 11:22 AM Total posts: 227

Is Dang really a word??

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armybrat20...
Posted on Jun 10, 2006 at 07:01 PM Total posts: 1

Hey, I have kids. I got married to a man who had kids. It wasn't easy to take on the responsibility of becoming an instant step-mom. Just like one of the guys who made the comment above, I wanted kids of my own so I had more kids with this man. Then this man decided to leave after he got tired of being around all of his kids. There are some bad men out there, but the older I get, the more I realize that there are good kind-hearted people out there too. I've tried on-line dating and yeah, many men run the other way once they find out you have kids. Others who are childless don't understand the responsibilities that come with kids. i.e. They treat you just like you were single and childless and except you to spend every night, weekend, vacation with you without the kids. All of us single parents can understand that this isn't possible when you have kids. Where are all the divorced men or men with kids who understand parenting or those who don't mind accepting woman with "luggage."

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Jes06...
Posted on May 27, 2006 at 11:22 PM Total posts: 2

Men tend to think they are a "void filler" as far as parenting goes. I am a single 35 yr old female with 2 beautiful children, and have been in relationships with men. I have, and always will take care of my own children...somehow...someway...but I refuse to depend on ANY man to take care of me or my kids. But I think the ladies who want a relationship so they will have someone to help raise their children ruin it for those of us who are independant enough to do so on our own.

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Curtisy...
Posted on May 17, 2006 at 04:20 AM Total posts: 1

To be fair, not every guy is afraid of kids. I have been in a relationship where the woman had two kids. I fell in love with them and the only reason I stayed in the relationship for so long was because of the kids. I am only scared that the female would make a hasty decision because a man looks like a good father figure, but that should not be the only reason to be in the relationship. Now your average single sailor who is not ready and responsible for kids should and will be scared. He will jet as soon as the word kids comes to mind. But if someone is ready for kids, they won't be scared. I would gladly be in a relationship with a woman who already had a chil or children, just as long I could still have one or two of my own with them.

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angie...
Posted on May 16, 2006 at 05:27 PM Total posts: 4

i have four children under 8 and i have no prob picking up, men dont seem to care that i have kids or that theres so many lol quite a few have wanted to stay onboard ... at least till they stop putting the toilet seat back down lol... have a wonderful day :)

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